🕊 What If Forgiveness Isn’t What You Think?

We often imagine forgiveness as a moral decision — something we grant to someone who has wronged us, a kind of spiritual or emotional “favor.”

But what if forgiveness isn’t about them at all?

What if it’s simply a shift in the way you see?

🔍 Seeing Through New Eyes

In my work, I define forgiveness not as forgetting or condoning, but as releasing the judgment that keeps a painful story alive.

The past can’t be changed — but the way you relate to it can.

Forgiveness is the moment you let go of the need to punish — even if the punishment is only happening in your mind.

💭 The Stories We Replay

Many of us live in internal loops:

• “They should have treated me better.”

• “I’ll never get over what they did.”

• “I can’t believe I let that happen.”

These stories become part of our identity.
They become the lens through which we see others — and ourselves.

Forgiveness doesn’t erase what happened.
It simply allows you to set down the weight of the story.

🌀 Forgiveness and Emotional Digestion

Much like eating, emotional experiences need to be digested — felt, processed, and integrated.

But if we avoid or suppress them, they linger undigested — like a heavy meal sitting in the belly of the psyche.

Forgiveness is the awareness that begins to digest the experience.
To chew on it.
To take what was nourishing… and release what no longer serves.

✨ A Practice in Perception

Here’s a starting point:

“What am I still carrying… and am I ready to see it differently?”

Forgiveness isn’t something you force.
It happens in the moment you become willing to loosen your grip.

📘 Want Support in This Work?

I created a course called Awareness and Forgiveness
It’s not about “shoulds.”
It’s about seeing clearly — and gently allowing healing to happen on its own terms.

You can learn more and begin your journey here:
👉 Awareness and Forgiveness